Protecting your peace is one thing, but you must first find it. Humans are problem solvers, and when we are in a negative place, we tend to surround ourselves with chaos, either subconsciously or intentionally. Peace stills your nervous system, allowing you to connect with your highest self. Read more to discover how to flourish in finding and keeping your peace.

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negative self-talk

As you have most likely heard before, you are your own worst enemy. Negative thoughts create negative outcomes, just the same as when you manifest, proving the law of assumption: positive thoughts create positive results. One negative thought weighs heavier than three positive ones, so it is extremely hard to go through life on a positive note. But when in our own heads, we can often create imaginary problems that raise our anxiety levels, manifesting into more and more problems that are not ultimately needed. If you’re wondering how to minimise the negative self-talk, you are in the right place. Here are a few things I do to keep a positive note.

Be in the here and now

What’s actually happening in the moment, take yourself out of social media, family drama, everything else. Breathe and look around you, take note of your body, your space, and take a moment or two to bring gratitude into your day. You can always be in a worse place; life is simply not fair, so coming away from a victim mentality and thinking that actually life is pretty good is a very powerful mindset to have. Look for the positives and look for the things to be grateful for.

Talk it out

Sometimes our problems feel more monumental in our heads, so sharing them with trusted people can help lose some of the weight that they bear on you.

Self assurance

Take accountability for yourself with your values and moral compass. What do you stand for and why, because at the end of the day, if you stick to your morals and values, no one can truly tear that apart because you know you have the strength and stability to stick to your word. This helps build a larger form of self-confidence, in turn building a relationship of trust with yourself.

comparisons

Your life path has been individually tailored for you. To follow someone else’s is to do a massive disservice to your potential. It is ultimately up to you whether you reach your full potential in life, whatever that looks like to you, but you won’t even get close if you're constantly comparing yourself to the girl beside you. This is not to say you can’t borrow inspiration from people who are maybe further along than you are and learn from the people around you, but you can also take what resonates and leave what doesn’t. You will find bonds over mutual goals, but taking on/guilting yourself based on someone else's existence is simply unhealthy and counterproductive. This all comes back to the building of self-confidence, which is another article for another day.

relationships

The people you surround yourself with are your main influencers. They are the people you embody yourself with, so you truly have to make sure they’re people that match your values and pull you into a flow that aligns with your goals, whatever that looks like for you. Popularity is overrated; you are allowed to choose and be specific with your circle. Be picky, and that’s okay! Once you drop this need for validating falsities in relationships, you will be on your way to finding friendships and relationships that help fulfil your happiness and general contentment whilst creating a strong bond and support group.

filling your own cup

You need to stop relying on others to bring you peace. When I say this, it doesn’t mean the people around you can’t fill your cup and satisfy you, but in the same respect, you need to know how to fulfil your happiness as an individual, as you are the person you spend the most time with. You have to create a foundation for yourself so strong that no one can tear it down. Doing this can consist of getting to know yourself and what you like. What hobbies are you drawn to the most? What colours, scents and what fashion pieces do you like? What makes you happy? And what makes you sad? Why might that be? Asking yourself these questions and sparking your inquisitiveness may just be the key to creating a fulfilling life. It may not come to you straight away… especially if you don’t feel as if you are your true self currently, but if you give yourself time and space away from everyone to discover your authentic self, you can create a connection of self-awareness, which can help you eventually heal and grow in the long run.

reconnecting with nature

There is truly nothing better than the unexplained beauty of the world around us. There is so much man-made chaos that just sitting in the world created around us can be simply grounding. No one fully knows the true meaning of this life or why we are here right now in this timeline, yet its beauty is here at our fingertips to preserve, appreciate and acknowledge.

to-do lists

This one is short but sweet. Organisation is key to minimising stress. Stress creates chaos, so creating a healthy problem-solving outlet is productivity at its finest. Whether you make your to-do list for the day ahead or the week, keep it a moderate length with a mix of short and long tasks. What I like to do is categorise and colour code my tasks, as sometimes seeing them outright can be overwhelming. I categorise them into: